Do you ever find yourself wishing for a fresh start? A moment where you can start a new? Do you wish for a day where your life will just magically turn around? I hate to be a bearer of bad news, but “fresh starts” don’t exist. At least not in the way most view them.
Many of us live under the impression that changes begins tomorrow. Instead of focusing our energy on today, we put our power on a shelf and just wait. Instead of creating we react. Instead of tuning in, we tune out. Rather than accepting what is, we crave more. This creates a never ending cycle of full blown misery.
A few weeks ago, as my first semester of college began coming to a close, I found myself saying, ” I can’t wait until next semester, it will be so much better than now.” It took me a while before I realized the error in my thinking. What’s stopping me from enjoying my classes now? What’s stopping me from finding the good in my current situation? It turns out my desire for a fresh start was preventing me from being content now. No one is immune.
Fresh starts can be beneficial. It’s nice to sometimes have a clean slate to work on. It’s OK to be excited about your future and look to improve on your past failures. That’s one of the reasons I enjoy starting something new. Uncertainty is exciting. But more often than not your old beliefs toward your current reality quickly rot the fresh start in which you are given. Leaving you to want yet another, and another.. and another..
I’m not saying you can’t look forward to tomorrow. I’m not saying you can’t look forward to a certain future event. I’m not saying you can’t look be excited for the beginning of next month. The problem begins when you become entirely dependent on fresh starts.
“I can’t be happy unless it’s Monday.
“I can’t start new habits until January first..”
“I’ll be happy when I have a new job.”
Drop those excuses now.
The truth is, fresh starts are simply an illusion of our mind. The more you chase them the more stale they become. Waiting for a fresh start is like going fishing with no fishing pole. If you want to make changes in your behavior or turn your life around, the time to do so isn’t next Monday, or the beginning of the next month, it’s now.
A true fresh start begins in the moment. Once you attach a future or past value to the term, it immediately becomes tainted by the events of uncertainty.
Over the years I’m made a lot of personal changes in my life. I’ve began eating healthier, writing more, meditating regularly, and have reduced my negative thinking substantially. Yet none of them habits just appeared. The changes occurred because I decided my fresh start is always now. The times I struggled were the times when I gave my power away to anything but the present moment.
The only fresh start is now. Yet unfortunately, many continue to believe that a fresh start lies in some distant land.
Waiting for a fresh start is putting your dreams on hold. It’s a rational (at least to our minds) reason to procrastinate. If the conditions will be better tomorrow why not wait? But the conditions are never better tomorrow. As we all know that perfect day never comes. Even with that knowledge many us, (myself included) delude ourselves into thinking we will have more power at some later time. But when waiting for tomorrow, we only weaken ourselves today, which is the only time change can really occur.
When you turn your back on the moment you invite drama and unhappiness in your life. You’re telling your subconscious mind there’s no point in being happy now because you can be happy tomorrow. But by the time the fresh start appears it is already being spoiled by the future and the past.
Instead of giving your power away, embrace it. You have capacity to turn your life around. But only if you tune into the freshness of now.
Your fresh start begins today.