Comments on: Your Only Competition: You

By: David @ A Happy Pocket Full of Money

David @ A Happy Pocket Full of Money — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 11:14:48 +0000

We are our own greatest obstacles! We need to get out of our own way first. Nothing else hinders us anywhere closer than we do to ourselves. Everything else pales in comparison. Yet there is great goodness in this because it also means we are our own greatest potentials! Simply get out of your own way

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Timeless Information 2009 Review — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 07:54:41 +0000

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By: Zoli Cserei

Zoli Cserei — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 16:16:07 +0000

Hey Bud,

I have recently started doing some home gym programs like the hundred push-ups and the two hundred squats system. For the first few days, I could not feel motivation, and when, at the end of the exercises, I had to do as much push-ups as I could in a row, I always just did the minimum required for the step. Today, as the final set, when it said “max (at least 30)” I did a hundred sit-ups. At 70 I felt like I was going to fall to pieces, but I knew that if I was at a gym and my buddies would see me I could certainly do the 100. Then I decided hey, why! I can do it alone, too. And I did. Not for the others, not to write it down here so you can all see it, I did it for myself and it felt G-R-E-A-T!

Your only competition is you. Absolutely. And in the blogging world that’s even more true!

Zoli

By: Jennifer Woodard

Jennifer Woodard — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 20:18:30 +0000

Bud,

Great post. I can relate the most to the self sabotage, it is something that I have been battling for as long as I can remember and still have not conquered this evil demon. I have worked on myself in so many areas but this is the one spot that I seem to be able to conquer. I will keep trying.

Jenn

By: Ivan

Ivan — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 06:04:40 +0000

good post my friend…
here is my perspective: the main thing that causes inner conflict for people is that they are always trying to become something…becoming is always in the future hence the conflict…people need to focus on seeing what “is” not what “should be”…this requires a mind that has perception into the here and now…a mind that is extremely sensitive from moment to moment and doesn’t cling…by looking at what “is” without the filters of the past or future, you will a have vertical growth in your consciousness…In the grand scheme of things there is no improving or bettering yourself…take a deep look at who is trying to improve…the thought and the thinker are not separate, but most see that as such and thats what causes the conflict (comparing/competition)…but if you create the necessary space (meditation) to see this inner movement in its entirety, you can transcend it and see what “is” and that is real growth….no becoming just being….your intelligence blossoms

By: Bud

Bud — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 04:29:52 +0000

@Armen: Amen dude. More often than not, family and friends mean best but it’s tough because even WE don’t even know whats best sometimes. Your family and friends don’t want to see you fail, because failure often hurts. But in order to really succeed you MUST embrace failure.

Thanks dude for stopping by.

By: Armen Shirvanian

Armen Shirvanian — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 04:14:22 +0000

Hey Bud.

I like that line there that says “These standards must be defined by you, not your family, not your friends but you.” Good call on that. Following standards defined by someone else is like giving up on our own being.

In relation to what Srinivas was saying there, sometimes others have this notion that they are helping, when they are in fact doing the opposite, and a smart person should change their behavior or attitude when they see that their intent to help is backfiring. Friends or family can be clueless at times, and trying to satisfy them when they don’t understand you is a fruitless endeavor.

It is good for folks to occasionally see if their “help” is actually helping, because fake “help” can do just the opposite.

Glad to read this.

By: Bud

Bud — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 02:17:16 +0000

@ Dani: Thanks

@ Srinivas: Yeah dude. Comparing yourself to others.. well it gets you no where. Strive for the best but don’t get upset when you’re knocked off your throne.

By: Bud

Bud — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 02:16:00 +0000

@ Jonny: No worries mate. Take your time. I’d love to see the list.

@Moon: Thanks for stopping by. I’ll be sure to check out your site.

By: Srinivas Rao

Srinivas Rao — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 16:21:14 +0000

Bud,

This is such a good point because competition when people use it the wrong way actually holds people back. I actually once wrote about something called the comparative and competitive disadvantage. I went through a good amount of life comparing myself to my sister. She’s in med school which is the most respected thing you can do in our community. But I realized there’s always going to be somebody who is worse and always somebody who is better, no matter what it is you are doing.