Do you mourn over the pages of the past? Do you get caught up in the what has been? Do you remain stuck on a page you desperately want to turn? If so, I certainly know how you feel.
Being stuck sucks. I get it. But sometimes we are required to turn the page. That’s life. Instead of resisting change we must learn to embrace it. I say learn because pages don’t turn themselves, you can and must teach yourself to read on.
The past year or so I’ve been glued to the same old pages of what was, and as a result this last year involved a lot of personal pain for me. I could lie and say it didn’t phase me, but quite honestly it has. I still had many great moments and wonderful experiences during this time, but having my eyes glued on yesteryear did take its toll.
The problem with living from your history book is that it’s just that: history. And we all know how easy it is to change the past.
You can’t rewrite what has already happened, but tomorrow is always a blank slate.
I’m sure you’ve heard that before, but how many of you really accept that responsibility? Do you realize the power you posses? Do you use the magical life pen to create the life you want?
When you stay stuck on the pages of the past you lose your ability to create an even richer story than before. So stop blocking it’s as simple as that.
The truth is, we all know that our relationships and desires change, yet we so often cling to them as if they are permanent. Change is difficult to accept because we resist rather than choose to flow. Yet living in a world of denial only prolongs the misery you so badly want to rid.
“I miss my girlfriend/boyfriend so much” —>blocks your ability to create new relationships.
“I want to eat junk food so bad” —-> keeps you from eating foods that give you energy.”
“I miss my old home” —-> keeps you from enjoying your new surroundings.
“I wish I was younger.” —> Says you can’t be full of energy now.
“Insert own past page here.” –> Can’t be happy now.
Are you stuck?
To be clear, I’ve lived on these pages for much of my life. But when you remind yourself that you control the pace of your story, only then can you take the actions needed to progress.
It’s easy to reread a page that we’ve already lived. It’s easy to get upset about what could have been. It’s easy to cling to the memories of the past. Yet in the long run doing so is, to put it bluntly, is unintelligent. The longer you mourn over the past, the longer you block abundance from manifesting in your life.
Reading on begins with a choice. A choice to want more. A choice to make the most of today. No matter what you’re current situation is, making one choice is well within your reach.
As soon as you decide to move on with the story that is you, the legacy shall continue.
You know when it’s time to turn the page. You know when it’s finally time to move on. Question is will you?
Take a breath, turn the page, your story awaits.
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Fantastic post, Bud! I totally and completely identify with this. I’ve spent so much of my energy trying to bring back the past and it gets me nowhere. Like you, it’s caused me a lot of personal pain. Now that I’ve realized how draining it is to live in the pages of my history book, I try to write new chapters that will lead to my desired ending.
Love this post, Bud! Tomorrow IS a blank slate and even though it can be hard to remember sometimes — every MOMENT is a blank slate too. Excellent topic and very well-written!
Hi Bud.
I like your examples there. The one about the home makes sense. When we are in a new home, we think about what staying in the old home would have been like, when we have a blank slate now. We have a lot of purposeless thoughts of this type.
I can’t rewrite multiple items that have passed by, but as you said, I can go onto the track I desire as I look forward. I think that is what winners say to themselves quite often.
I would add that we have to want to get back on the track or it will not occur.
It has been the common habit of humans to stay in the past rather than appreciate the current moment. If only we become aware of this propensity, we are able to shape our future in a way that will benefit us further.
So true, that there is no ‘do over’ machine which allows us to go back and make different decisions. Turning the page is the only valid choice. Thanks Bud!
I love this, I really needed to hear this today, thank you so much for your amazing posts!