When was the last time you connected with a friend or family member through means of authentic conversation?
I’m not talking about superficial chatter consisting of gossip and politics; I’m talking about genuine heart to heart conversation.
I’m guessing it has been a while.
Think about it. The majority of our conversations are meaningless, adding no value to our daily lives.
We talk about the newest music video, the latest politician to be involved in a scandal, and of course how the world is going to come to an end. But what we fail to do is talk about what really matters, our dreams, our aspirations, and our beliefs.
I’m not suggesting I never partake in lower level conversation. I love hearing about the latest pop diva just as much as you do. Nonetheless, I am greatly concerned at the lack of sincere conversation taking place.
Deep conversations are slowly on the decline. We have instead chosen to find entertainment from other means. As a result our beliefs remain confined to ourselves.
Society has taught us to put up our shields and lay low, to keep our opinions and beliefs to ourselves, but in doing so we are starving our soul.
We need to be heard.
Growing up I was never much of a talker, however as I have matured things have begun to change. I have become enamored with numerous questions about humanity. I might never have all the answers but I’m sure as hell going to try.
What drives people? What do people really believe? Why do people believe what they do?
I have found conversation to be a wonderful place to start in my quest.
There’s something about having deep conversations that satisfies my soul. There’s something about those conversations that go past our outer shields and dive deep into the vulnerable beings we are.
One of the reasons I enjoy heartfelt conversation is that I love immersing myself in different perspectives and beliefs. I love having my beliefs challenged because that causes me to reevaluate what I believe on a regular basis. As a result I regularly can the beliefs that do not resonate with me and am left with only beliefs that truly empower my passion and purpose.
Conversation allows me to know who people really are, instead of the person they pretend to be.
Our society as a whole tends to be very close-minded. Close mindedness is a terrible disease. Deep conversation is the cure. It’s only a matter of time before “deep conversation” begins selling in the pill form. Ask your doctor about it today.
One subject I particularly enjoy discussing is religion. I have been raised Catholic but over the years have developed a more holistic approach to religion. This path is what feels right for me. I look at world religions as a source of personal empowerment. I don’t subscribe to any particular one. From my perspective all religions have many empowering components.
Just the other day my friend Victor and I discussed religion for a solid hour. I have tremendous respect for Victor because although his parents moved back to the states he continues to go church even though he has no one telling him to. Now I’m not suggesting everyone only goes to church because they “have to”, I simply find Victor’s particular situation inspiring. I found our conversation to be immensely rewarding. It’s always interesting to hear someone else’s perspective on how the human race originated. While we didn’t agree on everything, I found many of his beliefs to be somewhat similar to mine. Perhaps it was because I was raised Catholic. Talking with Victor solidified my brotherly bond with him.
Another night I again discussed religion with my friend Sara, who happens to be of the Mormon faith. I again found this conversation to be greatly satisfying for I did not know much about the beliefs of Mormon’s. I have had several deep conversations with Sara each time becoming further immersed in different point of views. Once more, not all of her beliefs particularly resonated with me, as I’m sure not all of mine resonated with her, nonetheless I learned a great deal about her religion and further enhanced my knowledge of religion.
Deep conversation can often be difficult. Sometimes individuals reject true conversation from taking place, by rejecting beliefs that are not congruent with theirs, making it impossible for true conversation to take place. I find it rather difficult to talk to several of my classmates about religion because they refuse to accept any belief other than their own. While I can be somewhat close-minded at times, I take particular pride in looking at life from a variety of angles. I have found conversation to be a wonderful source of lens in which I can view the world. While some people aren’t open-minded this is perfectly valid.
From my personal experience I have found deep conversation to be a wonderful way to connect. It may take a while before you are fully comfortable with being completely open about your own beliefs but once you get over that initial resistance conversation is a extraordinary way to reach your highest potential.
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I think many people avoid deep conversation, serious talk, to keep from having their points of view rejected.
I agree. Many people don’t take the time to have deep conversations, and when they finally find free time they waste it by gossiping and whatnot. Going into a conversation with an open mind is also important because that is how we learn about others and about ourselves. Talk about the first step to universal respect.
Another great post.
I tend to believe a closed mind is like China’s wall. Huge, magnificent, keeps everything secure inside for centuries, until you see how the world has changed without you, and now you have centuries to catch up with.
Conversation is a tricky thing, as it reveals so much of who we are, and sometimes that’s not a comfortable place to be. Often times it’s easier to confide in a friend than your mate or family. But when both parties can take their ego off the table, some very interesting insights can present themselves.
nice post!
i’m still waiting for that how to be a …… post!
Beautiful thoughts! Deep
I love deep conversation too. I love twitter but it is taking some attention away from blogs and into tweets where the conversation is not as deep. Our fast-paced real-time world is indeed losing touch with the value and pleasure of “deep”. Deep thought and deep conversation go hand-in-hand. Not much of either is happening any more. Sad.
I believe that we get to deep conversation when we have something deep that we live in our lives. I am mostly just deep conversations and all the people I am having these conversations with are having something to say and this is most due to having something to live for
Then, the other criteria is to have be on the same page in life 
…I might be passionate on personal development and you on law…we might not really match 
But then…there is a lot to talk on this topic.
Nice u have spotted it early in your life
deep conversation used to be sold in pill form. the psychiatric community hailed it as a wonder drug. then it emerged people were taking the pill to enjoy themselves and mdma was pronounced illegal to the dismay of the part of the medical community that needed it most
What are your views on the Bee reproduction issue in africa?