You hear a lot about happiness these days.
You have to be happy 24/7. You have to only do the shit you love. You have to wake up everyday and jump out of bed, because if not, you’re broken.
While I certainly wish that were the case, the fact of the matter is, it’s unrealistic. We can’t always be happy, we can’t always do the stuff we love, we can’t always wake up every day feeling like we can take on the world. Yes I used the C word. That’s not negativity that’s life.
Before you label me as a sadistic monster who enjoys to see people in pain let me explain.
While there is nothing inherently wrong with wanting to be happy, we all too often make that our main objective in life. And In our quest for bliss and contentment we fail to embrace the beauty of suffering.
Today’s post isn’t about being happy. Instead it is about finding beauty when all hope is lost. Today’s post is about the beauty of suffering.
The Importance of Suffering:
The words pain and suffering have a relatively negative connotation. You hear the word pain and you immediately get set to run. But the truth of the matter is, without them we wouldn’t know what it is like to be happy and content.
Suffering is inevitable. The sooner you accept that pain, death, and sadness are felt by every human to ever walk the earth, the better your life will be.
I’m not suggesting you purposefully find ways to be miserable. Instead, I’m inviting you to use pain to encourage you to be thankful for the blessings you have. Sorrow is natures greatest reminder.
While pain and suffering aren’t comfortable; they aren’t the bad guys we make them out to be. With each moment of misery comes the opportunity for love and compassion.
I know what it’s like to feel empty on the inside. When I witnessed my best friend pass away I suffered for a long time. The more I resisted the pain that the event caused, the deeper my wounds grew. It wasn’t until I saw the beauty in my own suffering that I began to be grateful for the life that I had.
Instead of running away from pain and suffering, embrace it for what it is. Misery deepens your threshold for bliss.
Breaking up sucks, but when you do find a relationship that works it makes it that much better.
Losing a friend is one of the worst feelings in the world, but it also reminds you to appreciate the moments you currently have with the ones you love.
Getting fired and not being able to provide for your family can make your world come crashing down, but the rise to the top will be that much greater.
The funny thing is, when you accept suffering the meaning behind the word changes entirely. Suffering is no longer a punishment but rather a guardian of truth, a lesson to be learned.
The Beauty of Suffering:
The majority of the world suffers on a regular basis. Many deal with wars, drugs, poverty and inner demons.
At first glance it may seem like there is nothing you can do, but with suffering comes the opportunity for you to make a difference. With suffering comes the ability to rise above. With suffering comes the chance for you express the loving person you are. Don’t run away from your pain, fears, and heartache. Embrace them.
For every person suffering, there is a moment of love and compassion. For every person hurt, there is a time of healing. For every dark alley, there is a beacon of light. This is the balance of life.
The beauty of suffering lies in your ability to do something about it.
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Hey Bud,
I like your point. I think that being happy all the time is a delusion. We can be happy a lot of the time, but not all the time. It’s a psychological impossibility. Besides, suffering is also a natural part of life. Once we understand this and don’t run away from it like crazy, we can manage it in a very effective way.
Thanks man.
Wow
Insightful stuff dude… I properly had a “shift” as I was reading it.
I’m as guilty as any at chasing “perfection” and wanting to be uber-happy all the time.
Nice of you to point out that not only am I being mental; I’m also missing a trick:
Suffering is awesome. Well, almost. You get me.
Great stuff Bud. Boom!
What’s up dude. The message of the post wasn’t to suggest you can’t be happy the majority of the time but rather we must embrace the suffering as well.
Solid post Bud… IMO, the most valuable growth comes through struggle… Struggle and suffering are the ultimate forms of focus in this dimension…
Keep up the great work…
Colin
Bud,
I did not know you had your own blog too. I know you through pluggin id but I usually do not comment there. Why? I am not sure. I like this subject, I also agree being happy all the time or being sad all the time is not great. Great buddha also said, without suffering we can know joy or happiness. Both are part of our lives.
Dear Bud,
I have never really looked at it this way, but you are right. You have opened my mind. Inspiring post =)
Those of us who live pleasurable lives often forget one of the important points you make in this post: “The majority of the world suffers on a regular basis. Many deal with wars, drugs, poverty and inner demons.” Such recognition helps put our own experiences in perspective.