Do you remember the moment you decided to totally commit yourself to a life of personal development?
Was it after a life altering religious awakening? Was it after the completion of the latest personal development book? Did an illness cause you to rethink your current life path? Did the death of someone dear to you make you rethink life and your place in it?
Perhaps you have yet to have a life-defining moment. That’s more common than you think. On the other hand, maybe that’s why you’re here. If so, you have come to the right place.
Accepting the Life of Personal Development — a New Beginning
The day in which my soul awoke I will never forget.
On the beautiful beaches of Hanian I lay. With my girlfriends head rested upon my chest. Staring at the crystal clear sky weeping, calling too our friend above.
You see, just hours before we both witnessed our friend Marco pass away right before our very eyes, in a tragic jet ski accident.
My best friend. My go-to-guy. Gone within an instant:
My last words to him I will never forget:
Our last moments together
” I will see you tomorrow,” I said to him in the casual way we always speak to another. It never occurred to my young mind that this time was the last time I would see my beloved friend alive; the last time I could speak to him or hear his voice or feel his warmth and bask in the glow of his friendship.
Losing a loved one isn’t easy. I’m sure you know that. You, no doubt, have lost a loved one. If you haven’t, you will.
Why didn’t I tell them I loved them? It wasn’t their time. They were my everything.
Do those sound like some of the thoughts you had when you lost someone? Did you feel their absence when you went to a party or a gathering of friends? Did you feel the pain in knowing you would never see them, hear them, share with them again?
That is a loss that is common to us all.
Seeing my friend bloody, fighting for his life, on a stretcher was a hard image too see. This awful vision stays with me to this very day. I can’t get it out of my head. Oh, it gets a bit easier with time. I know as I age it will not seem so large. But I know too it will always be there — always on my mind.
Luckily I had been fortunate enough to have never lost a loved anyone until that time. Yet Marco’s death hit me, as well as all the many individuals who loved, him extremely hard.
So how does this relate to personal development? Or, more importantly, YOUR personal development?
This began a period in my relatively young life I began to question my existence for the first time.
This process, considering the circumstances, was very difficult.
Who was I? Why was I here? What purpose does death serve? What purpose do I serve? What is love? Does God exist?
My mind was bombarded with questions, one in which I could not answer.
Then out of know where: in an instant, purpose struck.
I was tired of living a life of nothing. Going through the motions , would not do it any for me.
I began reading any book I could find. I began listening to any audio tape I could find.
In hopes of making a difference.
Life is good yeah?
No. I struggled. I became alienated from a few of my good friends. My grades suffered. I became anti-social. I continued to fall.
Yet as I continued to develop myself things began to realign:
My friends personal development is hard work. There are no shortcuts. It hurts. But when you begin to live for a life larger than yourself miracles begin to happen.
Don’t wait for a tragedy to strike before you begin truly living life.
This blog is meant to compliment you in your personal development journey: nothing less nothing more.
It is a tribute for all those who have not yet lived. It is a tribute to my friend Marco who’s presence woke my soul.
My friends: May you reflect on this poem I wrote and begin to truly live, for we live in a truly Boundless World.
Is that all you have to give?
Spread your wings
try to live.
Indulge your self in endless sky
take a leap and begin to fly
It’s in you
I know it
Find some courage
And show it.
-Bud
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It’s truly amazing to have taken such inspiration from an awful tragedy. And it’s great to see you sharing your inspiration with the rest of us. Thank you! I’m sure your friend would be honored and I’m sure his family is very proud!
As for the unanswered questions, life would be boring without them.
that was so poetic and well written bud! It helped me get over a lot of things i’ve been thinking about lately, I miss him so much too
good job, i know you’ll go far in life inspiring people like that 
Hi Bud, your story is truly inspiring. I’m sure this post alone will spur many to action. Thanks for sharing with us!
Bud,
It’ so sad. We never really know tomorrow. We are learning and growing everyday because of the success, the failure, the sadness,the happiness, the people we met or just because of ourselves. Some people don’t choose to express their true feelings because they are afraid of being laughed at, being refused, being not loved as much as they loved the others, or just because they can not. Life is too complicated. Sometimes I feel so powerless as human being,but what I can do is to try to live in this complicated and unexpected world. Hope we won’t be defeated by the the complicated and the unexpected tomorrow. Take a deep breath to face everything. We have no other choice since we were born.