Interview with Alex of Unleash Reality

While I do my best to provide unique content from my perspective here at A Boundless World, I also like to occasionally have another blogger voice his or her opinion as well.  Last month I featured Ivan Campuzano and today I have the pleasure of sharing with you, Alex of Unleash Reality. I hope you enjoy

Alex, what exactly does Unleash Reality mean?

Unleash Reality means living and expressing your limitless, undiluted potential and experiencing the infinite amazingness of life.

It’s kinda a remix between personal development and spirituality. Punctuated by fresh melodic urban quests and wild adventures that mark my journey to living my dream life.

Although still relatively new, your blog has already developed quite the following. What do you feel is the reason for this?

I think the main reason it’s grown so quickly is related to the “being real” question below in the way that I fully put my personality out there on my site and in my writing.

It’s an attitude of “here I am, take it or leave it”. Not in a bad way, but in the sense that my site is a raw expression of who I am. Sure, some of the ideas I write about are not new, some are, but it’s the way I convey the content and the expression of my somewhat quirky personality that I infuse into my writing that has made it grow so rapidly.

People are scared to be real, especially in their writing, because they’re worried that who they are isn’t good enough. They’re worried to write what they want to write because it doesn’t read the same way as a Steve Pavlina article does or wa’eva and think that they need to edit their personality out.

Dunno ‘bout you, but I like reading articles that take me on an emotional journey, an adventure, you know, the warm fuzzy kind that has a moral at the end, but an adventure nonetheless – my favourite writers make me smile, laugh out loud, frown, sad, happy again, and then teach me a lesson at the end and send me away feeling great.

What advice could you offer to someone who is struggling to “be real”?

Stop struggling

You can’t try to be real.

Trying is seeking to accomplish something and wanting things to be different for the sake of others.

But being real is living for you.

Sure, you will have compassion and love for others and interact with them and consider them, but you’re doing it because it’s what makes your soul smile, and not to make other people like you or because you think you “should”.

Being real tapping into the pure undiluted depths of your being and expressing that life within.

Being real, more than anything, is a deep trust in life. Knowing deep down that everything is going to be okay. When you stop wanting to control everything that happens in your life, including other people, when you relax into the knowing and perfection that you are; and express it, that’s being real.

See, it’s one of those really difficult things to explain. Like dancing. Mainly because being real isn’t about doing anything really. It’s not a doing thing but an allowing for life to flow – being real is an effortless expression of who you are beneath all your stories and judgments and labels and ideas of separation.

You can say what being real isn’t – but trying to define “being real” is limiting something that is limitless expression. Just duddn’t work.

At its deepest level, being real is expressing the life that you are, and that is everyone, you know, that deep perfect connectedness, and letting it shine through you, every moment, unedited and undiluted.

So my advice would be to stop struggling. And every time you do something that feels like you’re “not being real” or feels like you’re wanting something or trying to control what’s going on, just see if you can feel where that want is coming from or feel that resistance, allow it to come up, and then become aware of the awareness in and on which those feelings of want or resistance are arising. And feel the infinite depth of your awareness compared to the tiny emotions that come up. The emotions feel big when you’re focused on them, but what you really are is the awareness. That’ll help you realise that the wants and feelings of being “not real” and the resistance – all that stuff is just a fun little dance, it’s not real and it’s not you – trying to make it real, that’s being not real. So just let it go and allow your true nature beneath all that stuff, allow your deep awareness to shine through.

Yeah, long answer, I know, but “how do I be real” is pretty much on the same level as “what is the meaning of life” so a couple of sentences were required haha.

What is your favorite post for unleash reality and why?

Hmmm.

If I had to choose, I’d say Hate me or love me.

…it’s about “being real” actually, and why it’s such a kickass idea. You should read it. And leave a comment too.

Obviously you have a lot to offer in the personal development field. Where do you see yourself going in the next 5 years?

Awwww shucks. Warm tingly feelings.

Man, it’s a pretty tough question.

On a practical tip, I’d like to see myself living a life of choice, able to do what I want and go on adventures and study and do things that make my soul smile.

But personal development wise, hmmm. In myself, I’d like to be completely free of tension and stress and judgments and bleh.

I just think that people are so… bad to each other. All the time. For the stupidest reasons. Myself included. And I try to catch myself and it’s getting better but I’d like to dissolve the part of me that wants those things to happen and just live free and feel nothing but love for everybody.

And I’d like to live more, experience real life more than my interpretation of it… you know; live in reality instead of in my thoughts and judgments about it.

Very hippy sounding, I know.

How has your international experience aided you in your growth as a human being?

Well I haven’t had nearly as much international experience as I’d like.

…but I spent some time in India a little while back.

The place is really wild and beautiful and passionate and crazy and magic and wow.

One experience really stuck out. I spent around two weeks at an ashram, kinda like a temple but where there are like 10000 people living and new people visiting and staying for periods of time from all over the world.

And the whole deal with this ashram was that it was the ashram for this living saint called “Amma” who is also known as “The Hugging Saint”. Basically all she does from like 4AM to 11 at night is she hugs people. People queue up for hours and hours – there are like 10000 people there, 500 new people coming in and out daily, all there to be around this amazing being and get a blessing and a hug. She’s hugged over 20 million people and is recognised as a living saint by the United Nations.

Best hug evar. Really. But more than that, the overwhelming compassion and excitement and realness of the place was life-changing. You can see the pure expression and passion of the people and can see and feel all their and your problems melt into the overall indescribably energy of the place. Oh, the other thing about the place is that it’s not about money, how it stays running is that everyone – all ten thousand – has to help out around the ashram by cleaning or making books or food or whatever.

I wound up taking out the trash for all ten thousand people. A lotta trash. And initially I was really resistant to it and all that but eventually did it and just the scale and energy and aliveness of the people and especially of this amazing being, Amma, and the whole dance of all these feelings, it just makes you realise how insignificant your story is and yet at the same time you’re in the middle of the jungle right on the coast of the-middle-of-nowhere in India and you realise how amazing life is beyond and behind all your so-called “problems”.

That was the first glimpse of the awesomeness of life that lies underneath all our stories and all that yuck that we call “me”.

It’s well known you’re good friends with Glen Allsopp of Plugin ID. How did you meet him?

Glenny is a really good buddy of mine. He’s gonna get bleak that I’m calling him that but what evs. HaHa.

We met when he first came to South Africa a while back through a mutual friend and had some really mad crazy experiences and adventures together.

Unforgettable times. Best friend for life. He’s a really cool guy, you really should check him out. But don’t call him Glenny. He’ll get bleak. True story.

Any other advice you wish to share with readers who are looking to unleash their reality?

I know that if I answer these questions in two hours, let alone two months, my answers will be different. Mood, feelings, ideas, perspectives – all those things change, constantly… but now, life, this, life – it’s always here.

No matter how chaotic things seem, or how real all your stories feel, or how many problems or issues or whatever – life, the deep awesomeness of life that you are – that’s always here.

Being real is expressing that, it’s expressing who you are beneath all the stories and wants and yuck… allowing your undiluted core being to come up and flow in all its glory.

You don’t need anything to be you.

This is it. Right Now. This is life. Live it and let it flow. Unleash reality.

Alex runs a very popular personal development site called Unleash Reality. You should check it out right now. And subscribe too.

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