Comments on: How To Outgrow Relationships Gracefully http://www.aboundlessworld.com/how-to-outgrow-relationships-gracefully/ Fri, 03 Feb 2012 22:41:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Michael Finlayson http://www.aboundlessworld.com/how-to-outgrow-relationships-gracefully/comment-page-1/#comment-5459 Michael Finlayson Thu, 05 Aug 2010 18:30:21 +0000 http://www.aboundlessworld.com/?p=2011#comment-5459 One of the great certainties of the universe, apart from death and taxes, is that everything and everyone changes. As you and your partner change so does your relationship. You need to be flexible enough to move and adapt to those changes because the help to drive your relationship forward. Those who are unable to make the change and try to live in the past just stagnate, until they let their relationship move forward then they are stuck in limbo. I agree with you about not staying in a relationship because you have got to comfortable in it. If a couple has lost their connection and nothing that they do can keep it alive then they need to move on. I can understand that there can be a reluctance if the thought of starting again scares them, or they have invested so much time and energy into the relationship that it is hard to let go, but if they don't they are missing out on the chance of a fulfilling relationship, and a life. One of the great certainties of the universe, apart from death and taxes, is that everything and everyone changes. As you and your partner change so does your relationship. You need to be flexible enough to move and adapt to those changes because the help to drive your relationship forward. Those who are unable to make the change and try to live in the past just stagnate, until they let their relationship move forward then they are stuck in limbo.

I agree with you about not staying in a relationship because you have got to comfortable in it. If a couple has lost their connection and nothing that they do can keep it alive then they need to move on. I can understand that there can be a reluctance if the thought of starting again scares them, or they have invested so much time and energy into the relationship that it is hard to let go, but if they don’t they are missing out on the chance of a fulfilling relationship, and a life.

]]> By: Jonathan http://www.aboundlessworld.com/how-to-outgrow-relationships-gracefully/comment-page-1/#comment-5427 Jonathan Tue, 20 Jul 2010 19:46:37 +0000 http://www.aboundlessworld.com/?p=2011#comment-5427 Woooh, I could have used this post about a year ago! I was in the middle of growing out of a relationship that was not serving me any more, and even though I had moved half way across the country, it was challenging to let go what was already gone. I wanted to live in the good times, not admit that I had been hurt or messed with emotionally. The only thing I would add to this post is that people need to accept what is (as you've said), even if that is anger, pain, apathy or frustration. If you bury all of that, you're not actually growing past the relationship, you're just transforming your experience of it. The first step towards this type of growth is accepting the truth. Great insights Bud. Woooh, I could have used this post about a year ago! I was in the middle of growing out of a relationship that was not serving me any more, and even though I had moved half way across the country, it was challenging to let go what was already gone. I wanted to live in the good times, not admit that I had been hurt or messed with emotionally.

The only thing I would add to this post is that people need to accept what is (as you’ve said), even if that is anger, pain, apathy or frustration. If you bury all of that, you’re not actually growing past the relationship, you’re just transforming your experience of it. The first step towards this type of growth is accepting the truth.

Great insights Bud.

]]> By: Carl http://www.aboundlessworld.com/how-to-outgrow-relationships-gracefully/comment-page-1/#comment-5413 Carl Tue, 20 Jul 2010 07:42:59 +0000 http://www.aboundlessworld.com/?p=2011#comment-5413 Awesome, insightful stuff again Bud. And... funnily enough, very pertinent to my current situation (although with friends, not with my lady) I've got friends moving abroad, changing careers, changing focus - and I'm a bit in limbo. As much as I love my boys, I'm looking forward with anticipation to the new people I'm attracting into my life. Cheers for a post which helps keep everything in perspective. Awesome, insightful stuff again Bud.

And… funnily enough, very pertinent to my current situation (although with friends, not with my lady)

I’ve got friends moving abroad, changing careers, changing focus – and I’m a bit in limbo.

As much as I love my boys, I’m looking forward with anticipation to the new people I’m attracting into my life.

Cheers for a post which helps keep everything in perspective.

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