Admit that you make mistakes. We are all human. Be a little bit more humble. Humility can be your pride, not your shame.

Greetings.

i should definitely resign then go to rehab (is there a rehab facility for former asses?) before changing jobs

“No matter how high in the hierarchy you may be, it’s never too late to change careers. Being an ass isn’t a required. It’s perfectly acceptable to live a life a compassion and generosity.”

Well, that’s what I would say before I became aware of myself in early 2009. I knew that time I had to eliminate my ego (bit by bit, minus obsession about eliminating plus accepting myself in the moment). It has been perspective and behavior changing experience!

To eliminate my ego I realized I had to read sites like these (self improvement), increasing open minded-ness and healthy skepticism. I believe I was also guided by my own intuition.

In summary I believe these are the keys that unlock knowing more about yourself and to learning more interesting material:

First, take your *ego* as your distraction: the wall that guards you true self, let’s include a moat if it is very serious, haha.

Keep it from distracting you by examining that wall and understanding what is written in that wall (if a moat is included that guarding animal should help you explain it, haha), then accept it to help you unlock it. (as in Ivan’s comment above, in my own words)

so, here are the keys to the castle door:

• open mindedness with critical thinking and healthy skepticism to facts.
• using your intuition
• treasure yourself by loving yourself and accepting yourself at the moment
• being proactive (not beating yourself up, which is rooted from obsessiveness)
• rational thinking

Once you have come in the castle, these do not happen at the same time and they are a long but worth it progress:

• You celebrate independence from your ego.

• You’ll realize you have to break the wall and destroy the moat. Picture it as welcoming anyone to yourself (your castle) because you have accepted and discovered yourself.

• You welcome new facts and figures openly.

• You want to find your true potential lurking in the castle dungeon. I know it takes time to develop talent according to Celes:
http://celestinechua.com/blog/2009/08/10000-hours-to-develop-talent/

• You want to take care of your rooms (the departments mentioned in Celes’ article:
http://celestinechua.com/blog/2008/12/you-are-the-ceo-of-your-life/)

(Oh, that was long that it already sounds like a guest post), Bud anything to add to it? there could be many more, especially after opening the door.

When you believe that your identity is your ego, you will only live your world in reactive mode. You will live your life only in direct relation to how you are affected by gain and loss, pleasure and pain, fame and shame. Living like this you will never be living in reality; you are only experiencing this world from the self conscious perspective. By living your life from only a self conscious perspective, you only experience this world from your own thoughts, your living in your own little world disconnected from the greater reality. If you are not careful you will be lost, if you try and search for happiness, you will never find it because it’s not real. Happiness is not something you find outside of yourself. Happiness is something that is already inside you, you have to decide to be happy. You have to realize that happiness will never be found in egoist desires.

Meditation can help you create that space between your mind and thoughts, to observe and become a witness to your inner world. But only through sincere and continuous disciplined efforts will you be able to understand what I am saying. Otherwise people who try to meditate will only be doing so through their ego, and will use what I say to rationalize it and will only remain an understanding of their ego.